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Posted: 29 Apr 2022 04:33 AM PDT

If you're deep in the world of fashion influencers on Instagram, or have ever caught an episode of a fashion reality show, then you might have heard phrases like "My go-to evening look is a smoky eye and a red lip," or "This outfit could be completed with a tailored pant." If you have never done those things, then bear with me anyway. You get the idea: sometimes there is an assumption of an implied plural when singular versions of words are used. You'd have to be pretty avant-garde to put lipstick on only one lip or eye make-up on only one eye.

While you'd be more likely to refer to eyes, lips, and trousers outside of fashion terminology, we're all familiar with what one eye looks like. But what is a singular pant or, for British listeners, trouser? They don't exist.

"Pants," when referring to the clothing you'd pop on your legs, is an example of a "plurale tantum." That's Latin for "plural only." In other words, a noun that is used only in plural form. If you're a native English speaker, you might not even have noticed you're using them. But here are a whole load of examples that you've almost certainly said – and how they ended up as "pluralia tantum."

1. Scissors

The first known uses of the word "scissors" are actually singular – spelled in a variety of ways, including starting with "cy." That was in the 15^th century, and the plural version quickly overtook the former in popularity. While you'd still hear "scissor" as a verb, or to form a compound noun like "scissor kick," you're unlikely to come across a single scissor. The same is true of many other two-bladed tools – like "pliers," "forceps," "shears," "tweezers" and "tongs."

2. Glasses

When we're talking about eyewear, the word "glasses" is like "spectacles," "goggles," or "binoculars": today, you'll only hear them used as plurals. Even those who favor talking about a "red lip" don't seem to have adopted a "tortoiseshell glass" as of yet. Things get a bit more complex if you pop "a pair of" in front of the words. The "a" suggests you should treat "a pair of glasses" as singular, but research shows that you're equally likely to come across "a pair of glasses are" as "a pair of glasses is."

3. Jeans

Moving on to bottoms, lots of the names for two-legged garments are pluralia tantum. We have "overalls," "leggings," "shorts," "pants," "tights," and "trousers...

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3 Functions of Emotions

Posted: 29 Apr 2022 04:33 AM PDT

As a psychologist, I receive lots of questions about emotions and how to deal with them. Today, I thought I'd take the opportunity to educate you on the 3 main functions of emotions. There are many times when it appears emotions arise in us only to derail our mood and day, but that's not necessarily the case. Even the worst emotions can be tools that we can use in our everyday lives as long as you understand what they're trying to tell you.

There are some emotions that are enjoyable to experience and others that feel awful. At times, that leads us to think of some emotions as "good" and others as "bad." Let's take that train of thought and see how it can play out if applied in a different scenario. I was re-watching Spike Lee's film Crooklyn the other week. It's about a family living in Brooklyn in the '70s. One of the children, Nate, has a broken arm, and his mother insists that he eats the black-eyed peas she made him for dinner because they are full of calcium. This child hates these peas! Well, in walks Dad with cake for everyone and the family is overjoyed—but poor Nate can't have any cake until he eats those peas.

If you were to ask Nate which was good or which was bad, he would tell you that cake is good and peas are bad. His rationale—and I think most of us would agree—would be that he prefers the taste of cake. However, as his mother pointed out, the black-eyed peas are good because they have nutrients that are necessary for healing. They both serve a function and have a place in our lives. So let's start breaking down some of the functions of emotions and see where they fit.

Emotions motivate us

One function of emotions is that they get us revved up and ready to go. There is nothing that can motivate a behavior faster than emotions. I've seen people work harder than they ever had in their lives or give up faster than I can blink all based on their emotional experiences. Emotions get us prepared for action.

In fact, some of our action urges are hardwired in our biology. For instance, the action urge associated with anger is to attack. The action of attack will look different depending on the person. It could be displayed as yelling, hitting, gossiping, intentionally sabotaging someone, or self-harm, to give some examples.

The reason I use the word urge is that you don't have to act on it. I could have the urge to urinate while walking down 5th Ave in Manhattan, but I wouldn't wet my pants in the street. I would problem solve the situation which would lead me to find the nearest restroom. While running to the restroom, I could have the urge to yell at people for walking too slowly, but I would try to resist that urge and focus on something else, which allows the anger to dissipate. In some ways, emotions are like the nitrous button in your suped-up Fast and Furious-style...

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